Trying to establish the family you want doesn’t always go according to plan. When you’re tackling infertility questions and researching your options, the numerous decisions you face can seem overwhelming and frustrating. While adoption is the right choice for some couples, egg donation is the solution chosen by many others. This decision can be difficult to make, and when you’re deciding between adopting a child and obtaining a donated egg, there are questions to ask and choices to make. Consider the following factors, which weigh into your decision.
Carrying a Child
Obtaining a donated egg means that you or another woman must carry the child from inception to birth. If your infertility problems include not being able to carry a baby, you may be able to use a surrogate. There is no guarantee that a donated egg will result in pregnancy or that the pregnancy will be free of complications; however, there is also no guarantee that any adoption will be free of complications.
Choosing an Egg Donor
Choosing your egg donor is one of the more challenging tasks involved in the process. Many factors impact the likelihood of success, including the donor’s health, background, and other considerations. Legal complications are unlikely as egg donors and recipients sign legal paperwork agreeing to certain things mutually and they also usually remain anonymous.
Choosing an Adoptive Mother
Choosing a child to adopt comes with its share of potential issues, just like choosing an egg donor. The adoption process is long and intense, making it a complicated endeavor. Government-managed adoptions, in particular, can be extremely complicated; also, the children involved in these adoptions are often not babies anymore. Private adoptions may be simpler, but they can still present legal and emotional hurdles. One problem that those pursuing adoption face is the potential for reneging; a mother giving up her child for adoption may change her mind at any time up to and including the third day after the child’s birth. After this period, although it is difficult, it is still possible for a birth mother to attempt to regain custody of the child.
Egg donation is more expensive than adoption, but the potential for legal troubles is less substantial. Hopeful parents should research the legal, financial, emotional, and logistical implications of each choice and determine which decision is best for them and their families.