It’s not something we often want to think about, but the fact is that sometimes, infertility treatments don’t work. For some people, no matter how long you try, how much you spend, or what steps you take, the infertility treatments you try will not be successful. So what do you do then? How do you move on and begin healing when your treatments are not effective?
Why Do Some Infertility Treatments Fail?
Some infertility treatments fail because of a physical condition. Embryo quality is one such condition. So is the age of the eggs – that’s why donated eggs come from younger women because these eggs are much more likely to result in live births. Sometimes the physical condition is present in the recipient of the treatment, such as when a woman’s ovaries don’t respond to fertility medications, or when a woman smokes or is very overweight or underweight. On the other hand, certain conditions are easier to treat with infertility treatments, including hormonal and sperm-related conditions.
What You Can Do
When your infertility treatments just aren’t working, it’s important to express your feelings of frustration, sadness, anger, and whatever else you may be feeling. Holding in your emotions can be detrimental to your health and relationships. Talk to your partner, friends and family about how you feel and what you’re thinking. You may also want to seek help from a professional counselor or therapist; this can be extremely healing. You can also try:
Taking a Break
When your treatment method of choice just isn’t working, the best thing you can do is to take some time to recharge your batteries and refresh your mindset. You can always give it another try when you are ready. Sometimes a new game plan can give your body the jumpstart it needs to do what you want it to do.
Looking into Other Options
If you’ve determined that infertility treatments are not going to be successful for you, but you don’t want to abandon the idea of having a child, there are other options you can consider. Adoption, foster parenting, and surrogacy are all possibilities for becoming a parent without physically giving birth.
Remember that when infertility treatments don’t work, it is not a reflection of you as a person and has nothing to do with how good a parent you would be or how much you want a baby. Remain positive, explore all of your options, and take advantage of a loving support system of friends and family to help you through this understandably difficult time.